Resolving marital issues is one that requires understanding built on maturity. Couples with some element of maturity can always resolve whatever marital problems that come their way. Better still, one amongst couples with more sense of maturity can help calm matters down as they arise in their marital relationship. “We use to be one happy family, but the last 10 years have been horrible. My husband is not interested in my feelings. He is really my worst emotional enemy”, said a woman married for more than 25 years.
“My wife has told me that she doesn’t love me anymore. She said that if we can just exist as roommates, and each go on separate ways. When it comes to intimacy, the situation can be tolerated”, lamented a husband of nearly 30 years. These issues sound childish but they are serious. This is why resolving marital problems as they arise should be given uttermost importance.
AN OVERVIEW OF THE SUBJECT MATTER; RESOLVING MARITAL PROBLEMS
Never in history have they been quarrels, tension, divorce, abandonment of children and matrimonial homes, anxiety, and lack of family stability as they are seen in this 21st Century. Couples fight and exchange blows and nasty words in the presence of young innocent children.
During these encounters, house properties are used as weapons of mass destruction. Couples pour raw acids on each other, and neighbors are distressed every night with shouts, blows, and destruction of properties because of uncontrolled anger and ignorance. This is a pointer to the fact that a mechanism for resolving marital problems needs to be developed.
In resolving marital problems, I have come to understand that there are simple approaches that can do the magic if applied. These approaches I called “MARITAL CAPSULES FOR MARITAL BACTERIAS”, and they are 30 in number. The first 11 of these capsules are for men only, the second 11 capsules for women only, and the last 8 capsules for both couples.
11 CAPSULES FOR RESOLVING MARITAL PROBLEMS EXCLUSIVELY FOR MEN
These eleven capsules are exclusively recommended for men. These capsules are required to rebuild our families and restore marital dignity and morality in our marriages and homes. The capsules are as listed and briefly explained below:
LOVE, CHERISH AND HONOUR YOUR WIFE
The number 1 capsule to resolving marital problems on the part of the husband is the man loving, cherishing, and honoring the wife. Apostle Paul in the Holy Scriptures recommended this to believers when he was addressing them on how a man should love the wife. Click here to see details of Paul’s admonition to the church.
Our marital relationship is having problems today because we have lost the true definition of love, though we claim to have started our relationship with love we lost it along the line.
Hear what Walter Trobisch commented on love. This is what true love should be when you tell a girl “I love you”.
“I love you means you, you, and you alone. You shall reign in my heart. You are the one whom I long for, without you I am incomplete. I will give everything for you, and I will give up everything for you, myself as well as all that I possess.
I will live for you alone, I will work for you alone, and I will wait for you. It doesn’t matter how long. I will always be patient with you, I will never force you, not even by words.
I want to guard you, protect you, and keep you from evils. I want to listen to what you have to say. There is nothing I want to take without your blessing. I want to remain always at your side”.
Husbands loving, cherishing, and honoring you’re their wives is key to resolving marital problems. Click here to see what Solomon, the wisest man on earth has to say. [Songs of Solomon 4:1-10. The truth is if you don’t give your wife love she will not function the way she should.
BE NICE: HANDLE YOUR WIFE WITH CARE
This is another efficacious capsule for resolving marital problems. Husbands should understand that women are delicate and very fragile. Husbands are expected to be kind, gentle, polite, and kind to your wife always. Click here to see what the Holy Scripture has to say on this.
APPRECIATE HER LITTLE EFFORT AND ENCOURAGE HER
Husbands should learn to say “thank you” to their wives in appreciation for their little effort in keeping the home together. Value whatever she does and requires to be valued. Appreciate her good food, good dressing, good public speech, achievements in business and academics. After all, every woman’s glory is her husband’s honor.
Encouragement from a husband no matter how small it might look means a million to a wife. So, appreciation is a workable solution to resolving marital problems. See what King Solomon and Apostle Peter have to say on this. [1 peter 3:7, Proverb 31:28].
KEEP YOURSELF NEAT AND GOOD LOOKING
Every responsible husband should be clean, modestly dressed, and organized always. Keep a neat and nice-looking haircut, shave your armpits, and be neat in and out. Trim your mustache down to avoid looking disgustingly dirty, unkempt, and haggardly old against your age.
Sometimes when you look at some men’s shirts, you will see the map of their village drawn at their armpits by sweat. They wear their shirts for many days before getting them dry cleaned. Some don’t wash their stockings. You can hardly breadth when you enter their bedroom because of the offensive odors it generates.
Do not wear your shoes until it is worn out before mending it. Polish your shoes and use the exact shoelace. Do not look as if your condition is the worst in the whole wide world.
Women are easily irritated with attitudes like this. This turns off their love for their men. This is for the fact that they taking pride in the public appearance of their men. Women naturally like good things, so they admire men who dress neatly and look good.
This is a big secrete to resolving marital problems. Your appearance and deeds should not be questionable. The devil even questioned Joshua the high priest because of his dirty garments. Click here to read up.
MAKE YOUR BUDGET WITH HER, AND BASE YOUR BUDGET ON YOUR INCOME
This 5th capsule to resolving marital problems is key to a healthy marital relationship. Husbands should make their plans and budgets consciously involving their wives about their income available for the upkeep of the family.
It is deadly to live above your income and worst still, not involving your wife in the planning and spending. Make your family budget in its order of priority. Money management in the family has caused lots of problems and collapsing many marriages.
One of the greatest texts on wise investments is found in Ecclesiastes 11:2. Diversify your investments according to your income and budget, and not to the detriment of your wife and children. Good family budgeting brings harmony to the home.
MAKE YOUR WIFE LOOK FRESH AND YOUNGER
It is the core responsibility of the husband to provide for his wife and family, whether the wife is a working-class or not. Some men find this very difficult to do. This is why some married ladies look far older twice their age because they do the work of the man and that of the wife at the same time in the family.
Even when the man has a financial challenge, it is still his duty to look after the wife and children. If the woman decides to help out, it is a favor and not her responsibility to provide for the home. The woman is dependent on the man.
The Bible says “If a man fails to provide for his family, he has denied the faith, and he is worse than an unbeliever”, [1 Timothy 5:8]. Remember that the woman has both physical, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, social, and sexual needs. It is your duty as a man to fulfill them all.
This is one effective capsule for resolving marital problems. Go for it now and save for collapsing relationship. Go to “bend down and select”, pick some quality nice wears there, dry clean it, and present it to her. She will like it if that is what your income can afford.
DON’T MAKE YOUR WIFE REGRET HER MARRYING YOU BY
- Disgracing her before your relations and friends
- Abusing and over-laboring her because she is a weaker vessel [1peter3:7]
- Intimidating her by marrying another wife [Mal.1:14, Prov.2:14].
There is no benefit in seeing your wife sad because of your hostile and domineering attitude. You do not treat your wife as if she is your slave. Some have turned their wives into punching bags. You have no right whatsoever to fight your wife. A wise man controls his temper.
Don’t be deceived by the flat tummy single ladies on the streets, with make-ups like that of the Chinese Masquerade. They are destroyers and home breakers. With their mini-skirts, half-cut blouses, and spaghetti hands, they have led many to their early grave.
MAKE OUT QUALITY TIME FOR DISCUSSIONS AND MOMENTS FOR PLAY WITH YOUR WIFE
This is another magical capsule to resolving marital problems in the family. Any man who effectively administers this very capsule can never have unresolvable marital problems in his home. It works magic in relationships.
Make out time to discuss your needs and desires with your wife and not assume that she is completely satisfied and understands. Assure her how willing you are to meet all her needs and let go of some habits to save your marriage.
Do not allow your business or office work to take all your time. Time is necessary to build good communication with your partner.
MAKE USE OF YOUR WIFE’S GODLY ADVICE AS SHE IS YOUR TEAMMATE
Your wife should not be a stranger in her own marital home [proverb 31:26]. Your wife as your teammate has her own ideas, opinions, desires, requests, and insights. Involve her in your decision-making, and you will see there will be peace and harmony in the home. This is another good way of resolving marital problems.
PRAY WITH YOUR WIFE AND CHILDREN DAILY
Build your family altar. There is this saying that a family that prays together lives together. Prayer is the most offensive weapon of defeating the devil. Don’t allow your family to be destroyed by the enemy called marriage bacteria. See here. [Isaiah 54:13-14].
HAVE PATIENT WITH YOUR WIFE AND TOLERATE HER
Patience is a rare virtue, it is golden. Have patient with your wife in times of adversity and trials, [Romans 12”12]. Patience is the ability to tolerate delay, annoyance, or suffering without complaining.
Find a way of making your wife better or best. This can actually help to make your marital relationship blissful, and resolving marital problems can be as simple as anything.
Read up the 2nd “Eleven capsules exclusively women, 8 capsules for both couples in our follow-up publication. It is truly mind-blowing”
Beloved, these capsules have been tested over time, trusted, and they have been proven to work wonders in resolving marital problems. The issue is your ability to follow these capsules very religiously and you will see the efficacy. No human is perfect except God. So, do not expect your wife to be perfect since she is only but a human.
Because of the large volume of this article, and for readability sake, I recommend you read up the “Eleven  capsules exclusively for women” in the follow-up publication, right behind you. God bless you.
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